MCALLEN – A Rio Grande Valley family is trying to find someone who will help care of his father. He’s a veteran facing a debilitating disease.

Like many adults in similar situations, Bryon Stroud is taking care of his elderly father.

“He was a good man. My father worked, brought his paycheck home to my mother,” he said.

According to Stroud, his father is an 87-year-old veteran refusing help, saying “I’m an Air Force man. I’m an Air Force man. I keep myself clean. I keep myself looking good.”

Stroud said his father’s mind changed. He would stay in front of the television, get angry and would yell at his family. So they decided it was time to seek out help.

They applied for assistance through the Texas Veterans Commission with the help of the VA.

They moved their father into Alfredo Gonzalez Texas State Veteran’s Home.

The veteran was moved into a two-person room and was told. When he was told he would get a roommate, Stroud said his father objected.

“‘No, you’re not giving me no effing roommate. You’re not going this or that. If you give me a roommate, I’m going to kill him,’” he said.

Stroud said his father was discharged from Alfredo Gonzalez to a Valley hospital over safety concerns.

CHANNEL 5 NEWS spoke to the nursing home representatives. Alfredo Gonzalez is operated by staff from Touchstone Communities.

The Texas Veteran’s Land Board, a state government agency in Austin, owns the facility.

They responded to our question about what happened. They said they can’t discuss individual patient issues. They explained any discharge is done in accordance with several agencies.

CHANNEL 5 NEWS found out a nursing home can discharge any patient for a safety concern. That person can be transferred from one nursing home to another.

We’re told Dave Stroud’s transfer complies with the rules set by the VA when safety concerns happen. It also complies with rules set by the State Health and Human Services Commission.

Stroud said he can’t understand why this happened to his father at his age and with his health.

“My father’s 87 years old and has dementia. He’s going to say things that come with the disease,” he said. “Why not try to help him instead of knocking him out.”

Stroud is a veteran himself. “It’s your job to care for him,” he said.

The matter is personal and it shows the challenges elderly veterans face. Stroud is worried the same thing could happen to someone else.